A Day in the Life of a Matchmaker Part 2

Take a peek behind the scenes of Mirabela..Did you love reading about my busy morning in Part 1? Then you’re in for a treat with Part 2… 

11am - The other side of the date

The man “lacking self awareness” from my 9am phone call rings me…He loved the date and thinks he’s found the one. I told him I was happy he enjoyed his time with her. I asked him if he was going to call her back and arrange a second date. He says “Yes!”So obviously there’s a disconnect here.While the match was good on paper and they both showed interest in each other, it shows the importance of self-awareness and knowing how to be on a first date.In this scenario, talking about yourself doesn’t necessarily make you self-absorbed or obsessed. You’ve just lost the ability to exchange information. This is where my ability to coach him comes in. I now won’t send him on another date until I’ve coached him through how best to communicate and interact on a first date.Because it’s so important. Gone are the days where you get chance after chance. You need to ask questions and reciprocate. You can’t just be about you and your past.So I recommend being open to the other person’s suggestions, their feedback, and comments. Be interested in what the other person is doing, their family, their life.It’ll take some time, but he will get there. 

11:15am - Time for brunch 

I take myself to my favourite spot in Sydney and prep for my next meeting while munching on a smoked salmon delight and sipping my skimmed flat white. 

12pm - The date I’ve been waiting for

My next meeting is with an existing client. She’s just gone on a date that I’d been trying to set up for a month. I’m very excited to hear how it went.To my delight, she tells me it was a success!I can’t explain how happy this makes me. It’s the highlight of my day, because I’m emotionally invested in my clients’ journeys.It’s not just about bringing people together and watching what happens. To do this job, you need to be on the journey with them.During the play-by-play recount of the date, my phone starts ringing. And ringing. Normally, I don’t answer my phone during a client meeting, but it feels like an emergency.Excusing myself, I answer it.It’s another female client of mine. She’s been waiting to hear back from a potential suitor about organising a date. But it seems like he’s ghosting her.She’s really worked up over the situation. She hasn’t heard from him overnight and automatically wants OUT of the date. But giving up that easily is a big no-no for a long-time single person!It’s a common mistake that happens because people are afraid of rejection. It’s completely normal for singles to jump to conclusions, imagine the worst, and react strongly.We have a five-minute chat, where I use my expertise in communication and support to quickly calm her and offer guidance. It’s what I call a ‘situational simmering session’. I diffuse the tension and help her see things in a different light.Now back to the table with my client - and listening to the positivity radiating from her following the successful date.

2pm - Situational simmering session 

Time to contact the male prospect who never contacted the client I had the ‘situational simmering session’ with at midday.Part of my job is being a mediator and resolving situations. He answers my call and says he’s about to finish work. He asks me to meet him for a quick drink to talk through things.We meet at the bar at The Western and, over a cocktail, he explains everything.Ultimately,  he’s having cold feet.He hasn’t been on a date in over a year. He was a workaholic and after working through his personal issues throughout the year, he felt like it was the time to get back on the dating scene.But now the moment has almost arrived, he’s feeling more nervous about it than he’d revealed in the beginning.We talk about his personal progress. As it turns out - he just needs to feel worthy of a beautiful woman like the one I’m matching him up with. He went through a very difficult time with his ex. While he has worked through the issues, there’s obviously some residue left over that is affecting his behaviour around his next potential partner.Dating is really daunting when you haven’t done it for a while. Self-doubt can easily take control of your thoughts and your actions.Managing this aspect is a HUGE part of my job. I’m my clients’ earpiece, reminding them of their personal growth and reassuring them they’re worthy of meeting someone special. It’s up to me to help them stay confident in their desired path to love. 

5pm - Back to mum-mode

After a day of relationship and life coaching, I head home to get dinner started.Eating with my daughter is a precious time. She downloads her day and I listen.(As you can see, listening is a vital skill in my work and home life!) 

8pm - Again, we are not a personalised human-ordering service!

My daughter’s now snuggled in bed, so I check my emails for new inquiries or any questions my clients have.The first one reads:

Hi, I am looking for a woman who is a great cook, who enjoys evenings at home, and watches movies. What can you provide?

Hmm, how should I respond to this one…? I think I’ll deal with that one in the morning. Laptop closed. Enjoyed reading about my life as a matchmaker? If you’d like me to be part of your whole and connect you with your perfect partner, feel free to give me a call on (02) 8205 7776