Top 10 barriers to successful dating
As a dating coach and executive matchmaker, I talk to A LOT of people about their experiences in dating. I’ve collated the data and am bringing you up to speed on the top 10 barriers to successful dating.
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Judging a book by the cover: you really can’t tell if you’re going to be attracted to a person by their photo… you can only tell if they are “your (typical) type” at that stage.
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Unrealistic expectations: I know that you may have been dating for a while and you know what you want… but be careful not to fall into the trap of overly high expectations - nobody is perfect and you should always be open to embrace differences.
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Poor communication: this is a really big one! As a matchmaker and dating coach, I hear this one A LOT. When inconsistent comms is coming from one end, it automatically triggers the other person and they feel like you are diss-interested and will move on. Get into the practice of texting.
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Time constraints: Make time for dating! If you want to be in a relationship then you need to prioritise some time to do that.
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Overthinking: keep it simple and don’t overanalyse every little detail.
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Fear of commitment: take it slow and let the trust and the connection build.
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Not focusing on one person: I get it, meeting new people is easy. You can jump on Hinge and have 10 people ready to talk to you overnight. But when you’re talking to multiple people at a time, you could be missing out on the real substance that you’d be wanting in one person. Practice giving adequate time to only one person at a time to see if there is an actual connection there.
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Not being able to identify whether you’re just attracted or connecting emotionally with someone: this is when you are super physically attracted to someone and things are kept at a high level, rather than getting deeper and more meaningful. This is how we get into situationships!